Saturday, September 29, 2012

Bye-bye time- Once More!

I have never been good at handling adieus. Though I can never get weepy and clingy, inside me, my little heart would be doing a washing-machine spin, counting days down, letting the distance sink in, and then, finally, letting time take its course.

My first bye-bye was to Gautham who went away to Germany to study machines (like he doesn’t know enough already!) So Gautham is my trekking-cum-lets-check-this-new-restaurant-out buddy. He was working in Chennai for a year, and for one year, even though he was staying only like 40 odd minutes away, I hang my head in shame and say that I never did make much time for him. Some differences cropped up between us, and he kept rushing away to Coimbatore every now and then..Well, now we have a time difference of 5 odd hours, and now all the time that I had and did not use of makes me feel bad. Some things feel right when you experience them with an equally enthusiastic friend. Be it jumping into the sea, or falling flat on your face in snow, or digging into steaks and other God-knows-what-they-call-it dishes in restaurants that we would pick off the internet, or shopping in malls or feasting on home cooked food or discussing opinions and playing word games...Some things such as these, I miss, my friend. Not because I do not have other people to take me to such places. But because you in the frame made such experiences extraordinary! 

My second bye-bye was to Gaurav- who made the simple act of coming to office seem such fun! Incessant chatter- witty chatter I should add, and never ending laughter- is how I would describe things when this bundle of energy was around. Somehow, big issues would seem trivial and lambasting from managers would be laughed off over fruit juices and more fruit juices. Or over conversations under neon lights in our favourite hangout in Chennai. Somehow, he always knew what I wanted to hear whenever I was down in the dumps, and somehow, we never ran out of conversation topics. Sarcasm became an effective antidote for all the stupidity around us and somehow ideas would flow- and flow- though neither of us were disciplined enough to convert them into anything actionable. Gaurav, I am writing your farewell words to me- back for you- word for word- you know why- To take so much, yet give so little. To be understood so much, yet understand so little. To be inspired so much, yet inspire so little. That is what you gave me, my friend. I wish one day that I can stand at the top of the world and shout to God that I am blessed with your kind. You, my friend, is what the world deserves, the universe craves, and I prize! :)

My third bye-bye will be to my first best friend at work, Sameer, who might move, God willing, in some time. My fight-friend, the one person with whom I am entitled to be a kid (read un-friend, yell, scream, smile through tears, become friends again, laugh in a very un-womanly fashion, poke my nose into all his corrupt activities :D , blackmail and demand things and still know that he will be around, no matter what). Somehow when Sameer left to Pune, I had no hope of the friendship even continuing beyond the basic formalities that any relationship demands. Somehow, it stood the test of distance. Somehow, he always HAS been around to give me senior advice, to listen to me crib, to watch me grow up, to cry with me when I was grieving and to laugh with me when I was blissfully happy :) Thanks for always being the kite runner :)

I do know that next year, this time, things might-might not be the same. I do know that all our priorities might change-ARE changing- as we breathe, as the seconds tick by. I do know that nothing is certain, only change. But I also do know that these memories will always be around, to stay.


Kappu said...

Good luck to your friend Gitu.. and my best friend went off to Germany to study machines too - Univ of KaiseLautern. I experienced the same tear that you said.

Adieu, gawd we hate that word sometimes yes :(

Do stop by my blog!! I'd love your visits & comments!

Ashwini C N said...

Goodbyes are so hard to say. When people in my friends circle kept leaving one by one, for a minute I felt completely isolated, just worried at the thought of how I would spend my time. Movie buddies, Eat out buddies, Beach buddies and friends with whom we can fight and forget all about it in the next second. God I miss them so much now!

kingaurav said...

I am, by my own admission a very flawed specimen of the human genus. One of those grave faults is not being my real self with everyone... in fact with most other homo homo sapiens I am what they want me to be. But then, once in a while one person comes along my way who makes my real self come into sharp focus and leaves me no choice but to be BE THE REAL SLIM SHADY loaded with GAURAVISMS & UNABASHED ECCENTRICITIES... With this person, that split second gap of me saying or doing sumthng n the person getting it does not exist. Walking with this person in a crowd is tantamount to walking on a deserted beach - I can be myself and not care about anyone else around except that one person! MISS GITANJALI JEGANATHAN, THEE ART ONE OF THOSE WEIRD SPECIMENS....SO HOW EVER MUCH YOU MISS MY PRESENCE, YOUR MERE EXISTENCE MAKES ME BELIEVE THAT, INSPITE OF MY FALLACIES, I TOO HAVE COMPANY IN THIS HUMAN DOMAIN WHO CAN MAKE MY DAYS, EVENINGS AND BEER LADEN AFTERNOONS SPARKLE WITH THE PROMISE OF SKY HIGH DREAMS & AMBITIONS!
So....Gitanjali, you bestow too much of an honor on me by keyboarding (can't say penning!) this farewell....but do not ever read this as an epitaph for the way we are..... SOMEDAY WE WILL BE 80 YEAR OLDS SITTING SIDE BY SIDE AND LAUGHING OVER A GLASS OF UR FAVORITE BREW AND PLANNING OUR NEXT BIG THING...WE LIVE IN THE EXPANSES OF OUR IMAGINATION DARLING!

Eliminator said...

I can't believe I missed this until now. Gita, no regrets. Chennai was fun! And you are the reason. To discuss everything, even self analyse, over think stuff, and then let go off all inhibitions, these are things one can Do only with a special friend who understands. Those who share a similar world view. Cheers. And do come visit in Europe! :)

mahesh said...

Diye jalte hain kuch der ke liye prakash dekar bujh jaate hain! Is duniya main humein badi mushkil se kuch acchhe dost milte hain!

You are blessed to have got such good friends as these!

The true quality of friendship and love is not the physical distance that separates friends / lovers but the emotional distance that separates them!

I may be on another planet for all I know but I still know that someone special will always be there ticking next to my heart!

The same holds true for my gang of friends too! We would gladly kill or be killed for each other!

Assassins Creed :)

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Sameer Khanna said...

Thanks for such a lovely post (now screw the thanks :p)
It has been abso pleasure knowing you girl..

Throw all the negativities about friendships ending et al into the dustbin (along with your Stupid BADA OS mobile phone and not to forget your laptop that almost resembles a Harmonium now :D).
True friends would always be around, no matter what. And in today's highly socialized world everyone is just a click or a call away. Then there is always Goa :D

So cherish the memories, enjoy the present and hope for awesomER times to come..


gitanjali said...

@Kappu- I swear!! :( still, we will all live :)

@Ash- I know..but it's always like, when one bunch leaves, the vaccum is always filled..someway, somehow.. circle of life? :)/:(

gitanjali said...

@Mustafi- No words more :) :) :)

@Gautham- ja, zehr gut! ;)

@Mahesh- Assasins creed! Second that ;)

gitanjali said...

@Shastri- Many thanks for dropping by and for all those nice words!! :) Do keep stopping by!! :))

gitanjali said...

@Sameer- :D

gitanjali said...

@Sameer- :D

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You have been tagged Gitanjali :)

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